My boys have had influenza for two weeks so I haven’t been able to post photos or write. When something unexpected like this happens it seems that everything stops, and then you are always so surprised to notice that things have happened in the world while you were excluded from it. There have been students in my classroom every single lesson I missed and new decisions have been made at the staff meetings. People have posted lots of interesting photos in their streams and many interesting opinions have been exchanged. And then it takes a while to catch up, sometimes there isn’t time to do that and there you are just totally lost for awhile until things start rolling smoothly again.
It is Valentine’s Day today. Finns don’t really know how to celebrate it but they have wanted to include it in their calendars. It has become both a day for lovers and a day for friendship. When going through friendship quotes I found a wonderful page of Shakespeare Quotes. Such a wise man he was. I think this one is my favorite: “A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.” I could imagine writing this on a card either for my husband or a friend. It is amazing how often you can hear people talk very disrespectfully to each other, both friends and spouses. To achieve the point in a relationship where you can gently allow each other grow is something to really hold on to. Maybe there isn’t really a big difference in the way good friends treat each other compared to the way a romantic relationship works, all centering around the words respect, understanding, support and growth. Hearing people talk disrespectfully to each other makes me wonder if they do that to everyone, or is it just certain people that they feel entitled to disrespect. Having said that I see the value in celebrating Friend’s Day as we call it here, maybe it will make us value friendship more and maybe it will make us think what really is important in relationships.
It must be one of our greatest fears that no one will ever love us just the way we are. Maybe we can try to cure that fear with another one of Shakespeare’s famous quotes: “Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.” Happy Valentine’s Day!